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Let them eat cake...on my back! 01-02-09 03:32am EST

Still just trying to hang in there and keep food in me! It's getting harder and harder and I'm just getting weaker and weaker.

This Monday we are starting 24 hour care for me. It's not so much that I need help with the girls (which I do!) but I need the help for myself. It's critical that I get food in me the second I start to get hungry (which is like a little baby - every 2 hours or so). I really can't get out of bed too much and I can't be around the kitchen because of the smells so Frederic has decided that I just need some assistance while he is gone with getting food for me and making sure that I don't have to change the stinky diapers (had a BAD incident with that last week...NOT GOOD!)

The girls are doing well. When Maleia is napping, Noelani and I have been playing Uno in my bed and she's getting pretty good at it! She also likes to pretend to decorate cakes on my back. A little tube of lotion and she's good to go making dots and flowers on my back. Then she rubs it all in and starts another cake. She makes cupcakes out of my feet too! I gotta say I'm loving that!!

I think my worst moment through all of this was when I sneezed yesterday and my sweet little Maleia ran and brought me the puke bowl because she thought I was getting sick. She has seen that enough that she knows what that is for and that just made me sad tto know that she thinks this is normal. Funny thing is whenever I do get sick she usually watches me and laughs about it so maybe this isn't affecting her in a bad way!

My husband has been doing a great job helping me out. When I'm pregnant, but especially now because I'm laying around so much, he helps me to stretch out my back and legs everyday. We have a little competition to see if my legs or his arms are the strongest. Since I lay around so much, it's hard to go to sleep at night. I just don't feel like being in bed all day and night long. So Frederic does some relaxation exercises with me at night to help me go to sleep. That might not sound like much but it usually takes about an hour for me to fall asleep and he waits till I do and then goes and does some laundry and takes care of the cat, etc. He really is a great guy!

Last year we started planning the father daughter retreat while Frederic was in bed with cat scratch fever. I know this might sound crazy but we are using this time to plan the father daughter retreat for this year. We are getting all the details together and hopefully we'll have something for everyone to see in the next couple weeks. Since we will have a very new baby at the time of the retreat we weren't sure we were going to try to make it happen again but we've decided to go for it baby and all! We have some new and exciting things lined up for this retreat and it's exciting to see everything unfolding!

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sallyanne

I think it is hilarious that Maleia thinks it's funny when you are sick! She has a sense of humor like some of my kids :)

I'm glad you have such good helpers!! This too shall pass and you'll be on top of things again!

 
erica03

Ugh, I soooo feel for you! My nine weeks of "normal" morning sickness was hard enough. I cannot imagine what you are going through. But I do understand the whole thing about smells. I couldn't go near the kitchen sink for the longest time. Oh and open the dishwasher when it had dirty dishes in it. Blah! 24 hour care is a great idea for you AND everyone else in your house. It's survival mode right now for you guys!

 
julied93

Let me know how I can help you with the retreat!

 
DessertDiva

You're a wonder woman! You're even productive when you can barely move! You're awesome! I hope the sickness gets better, though...

 
bzyabsma

It sounds like you are making the best use of this 'down' time (although it sounds nice having someone put lotion on you, do relaxing exercises, etc.!) Hope you will begin to feel more like your old self soon! Tell Frederic I said keep up the good work. ;)

 
aggiemeg

wow..you guys(and especially you) are in my prayers

 
ginasitter

So sorry to hear how bad you feel! It looks like you are due around the same time Aimee is! That is so great! Happy New Year!

 
sweetpeas

Hang in there! Isn't it amazing how helpful little ones can be in just about any situation?!

 
heatherj81

In 1992 I was still in the Upper Lodge, I graduated in 1999. We moved here in 1993. So, it's very possible we met in 1992, but probably were in different groups. Where in Alabama did you guys live?

 
bromita

hang in there girl, I remember you daily in my prayers.

 
paradise_ray

To God be all the glory for your patience and endurance, and a husband's encouragement and understanding! I am praying for your family!

 
verny_mack

Is the 24 hour care going to be a live-in-nurse thing?

 
verny_mack

Ah, okay. :) Yeah, don't hesitate to call if you need me!

 
erica03

He will be raised by her mom.

 
sweetpeas

Amanda is due March 27th. I can't wait! Hope today is a good day for you!

 
LizWilcox

Thanks a lot. We have so much fun doing this. I think living in an apartment for 7 years has turned us into home owning freaks! We just feel so blessed to have this house and we want to make the most of it!

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time with your morning sickness. You sure have an awesome attitude through it all though. I hope it will subside for you soon!

 
greeneyes

Hi Heather! This is Blakely (Barnes) Segroves. I visited with your folks for awhile Sunday. I just wanted you to know that I have been thinking about you. I wish I lived closer so I could help out, too. Well, I just wanted you to know that I am praying for you.

 
trishie

I love the cupcakes! Such a great idea.

 
dressednyella

I love the way your girls are so sweet. I feel for you. I'm glad you're getting some help.

 
green_gourmet

...been thinking about you! Managing o.k.?

 
kristindoula

Aw, I'm sorry. I was hoping you'd have a bit of a reprieve for Christmas. Whenever you feel up to typing out your answers, that's fine. I understand. Hugs!

 
stylinmama

WOW, I can't believe another woman would say that to you. Has she never been there before?? Grr. Insensitive people.

 
betheboo

That really stinks that you're so sick! It stinks even more that you can't eat. I love to eat. LOL

 
betheboo

I'm in the same boat aside from the puking. If I were puking, I don't know what I would do. I can't even imagine how badly that would hurt. There are so many things that I want to eat too, but everything hurts going down. I have so many cravings. I can't stand it. Stupid tonsils!!

 
kristindoula

WOW! I just read your comment on Carrie's blog. I really cannot believe that a total stranger would be so rude. I hope the chiro at least helped some after that. Ugh.

 
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Shedding some light on the situation 12-26-08 05:01am EST

Thanks for all the sweet comments about my last post. We are doing pretty good right now because Frederic off of work for the next few days. We have lined up some reinforcements to come and help out in January. We have so many amazing people willing to help us that we actually have a waiting list. Noelani is excited at the idea of having friends come and play with her.

So today was kinda tough. I didn’t get out of bed until around 3:30 just because I couldn’t move without throwing up. My back was killing me so badly and I just HAD to get out of bed so I made myself and of course my first stop was the bathroom to throw up! Then I took a bath and getting out made me get sick again so back in bed I went. I was able to do some budgeting and bill paying while I was in bed. Fun huh!

The girls did come in the bed with me so I got to spend some time with them. Noelani suggested we play pregnancy spa and birth center. So she checked me out again and again and again and each time did an ultrasound to tell me who was in my tummy. It ranged from a snake to a boy to a girl to 3 boys and 2 girls. She combed my hair and put lotion on my back.

Maleia decided to feed me some grapes. We got the largest grapes I have ever seen in my life. They are so big it’s hard to eat them in one bite, especially when it’s hard to eat anything! I tried to be a good sport and let her feed me. She was shoving them in my mouth as fast as she could go. I tried to teach her to wait till I was done chewing but she didn’t really get that whole idea too well! Smell and taste is so sensitive when you are sick like this and so stuff that normally tastes good to you doesn’t always taste too good to you. But these grapes tasted so good to me. They were crunchy and so full of juice. I so badly wanted to eat these and keep them down so I would want them again later! I did eat about 15 of them but they didn’t all stay down. Bummer!

So one thing that is part of my personality is that I stay up late and I get a lot done when I do it. I just get so much energy after everyone else is asleep. Well this pregnancy has me so tired that I’m ready for bed around 9:30 and I couldn’t stay awake even if I wanted to. Tonight Frederic seemed a little amazed that I was going to sleep around 10. So not like me. I slept so peacefully until around 11:45 when I was awakened by Noelani screaming for me and Frederic. He went up and took care of the situation and I decided to get up and see if I could help. I couldn’t really make it up the stairs to her room and I ended up sitting on the stairs to listen to what was going on in her room. As I looked around at my house, I couldn’t help but notice that we weren’t living in a house anymore. We were now occupying a destruction zone of a tornado and hurricane. What happened to our house? I decided to try to clean some of it up. After about 20 minutes that had me throwing up again so I decided to go back to bed. Apparently that is where I belong!

As I lay my head down on my perfectly fluffy pillow I couldn’t help but notice that my entire face was illuminated. Where was that light coming from? Apparently my neighbors decided to light up the neighborhood with a new spot light. But not just any spot light. This thing was shining with a vengeance. I looked at it for a second and closed my eyes and I could see blue spots when my eyes were closed. Maybe he is a secret scientist that was able to create a 2 million watt bulb because I could seriously read a book in bed with no lights on and I would be able to perfectly see every word.

Why? They aren’t Nazis and my house isn’t a concentration camp where they have to keep a watch out for the Jews that are trying to escape. An even bigger question is WHY IS IT SHINING AT MY BEDROOM?????

From the 3rd window up, 2nd window from the right of the French doors, I am BLINDED by this spot light. I’m convinced that if a space ship where over earth right now, over North America, they would see an unusually bright light on the USA. They would track that light over FL, over Tampa, over my subdivision, over my street, shining into my house and call some “too much light on one street” authority and shut them down fast. I wasn’t too concerned about it because I was pretty sure that thing was sucking up so much energy it was going to blow a circuit breaker on our street and there would be a creepy darkness and I could go to sleep. No luck on that!

So how do I deal with this? Well first off, I’M SICK and can hardly move without getting even sicker so my options are limited. My first thought was to go into the garage, get our ladder, go over to their house, take out that CRAZY light bulb, go back to my house, put the light bulb in my driveway, turn on my car, put it in reverse, floor it and smash the mess out of that thing. But I’m a Christian (did I mention that I’m very, very sick!) and I would never do something like that!

So onto plan B. I got out of bed and closed the door. Smart thinking huh! Well a few minutes later little ol’ kitty cat wasn’t too happy she couldn’t sleep next to her daddy and mommy so I had to get out of bed again and open the door for fear that her meowing would wake up the neighborhood (well that is if they are somehow still asleep despite this new 2 million watt science experiment gone wrong). So I let her in and shut the door again. Well she wasn’t having that either. Kitty doesn’t like to be trapped. So I opened the door but shut it almost all the way. Problem solved. Back in bed I go. A few minutes later, kitty decides she’s not cool with this door that almost looks closed so she opens it up with her paw and pushes the door open and jumps back into bed. I’m thinking this cat just doesn’t get it. Can’t she see that crazy light in her face too? My husband wasn’t bothered by it at all. He was sleeping away like he didn’t have a care in the world. (he’s extremely sleep deprived so he sleeps like a rock. That’s why he has 5 alarm clocks and two of those clocks have 4 alarms. Yes it takes 11 warnings to get my husband up in the morning. Maybe I should just borrow that crazy light and install it into our room and shine it in his face every morning. He’d be up in no time flat. Too bad he’d be blind though!)

So I don’t have a solution right now which is why it’s 5 am and I’m NOT asleep. I don’t think I can bear the idea of getting back into bed only to have my corneas burned with that street light. I guess it doesn’t really matter that I’m up so late since I’ll probably be in bed all day tomorrow with nothing to do but sleep the day away.

mtnestr

In WV, we lived next to a hospital parking lot and one day they installed a super-powered light there because of some cars having been broken into. Well, it shone DIRECTLY into our bedroom windows and it was like noon-time on a sunny day in there all night long. We had to buy some special light-blocking shades just to be able to sleep. Maybe you could install a pet door at the bottom of the door so it could remain closed while kitty can come and go as she pleases.

 
green_gourmet

:( What do you have set up for help in Jan?

 
kristindoula

Ugh. I would probably try to be neighborly about it to start and ask them to keep that light out of my windows. If that didn't work, I'd call the authorities (which I have had to do about excessive noise way too late at night ~ after trying to be neighborly about it, mind you). I'm so sorry that this is so hard right now, but I'm really glad you have help lined up!

 
lydiasmother

Hey so we kinda have the problem over here, and yes I did go over and just unscrew it enough to make it go out but it was still attached so they would think it still worked! LOL BUT, what I would do is let them know that it shines into your home and you have no way of blocking it and see if they might be able to redirect it! If ya want I will do it! I hope that by Jan you will be better and soon! :)

 
spike427

you need a sleep mask!!! i use one and it can be really bright/daytime outside, but it looks like nighttime to me!

 
bromita

Neighbors are tricky. I agree that you might try to gently ask them to move its direction. We had an issue with our neighbor's dog tearing up things in our yard and when Jason talked to him about it, he got mad at us; but fortunately he has gotten rid of the dogs and now will wave at me at least when going down the street.

 
sallyanne

I laughed at your title. I love how you can still write and make me laugh even when you are miserable!

 
donnajo

ugh, I vividly remember all the months I spent lying in bed with that problem pregnancy I had. You get so tired and sore. Who'da thunk it? I also remember all those well meaning comments when someone would come to visit..."Wow, I wish I could spend a few weeks in bed...". Yeah, just try it for a while. Fortunately I had good friends to come over and just sit and visit. Remind me to tell you about the first b'day party for my oldest that got planned during my confinement. Funny stuff...

 
matermagistra

I was sicker than I've ever been in my life with Trina. Tessa was bad too...my boys weren't that bad, just six weeks of sickness and then it was gone. I remember barely being able to get out of bed and being so deeply depressed because I couldn't manage to take care of my kids. That was such a dark time. I feel for you. I hope the sickness doesn't last as long this time.

(((((HUGS)))))

 
bzyabsma

That is so funny about your dream! ha ha!

 
cdillman23

That normal burst of energy that you get when everyone else in the house is asleep, I get it too. Brian doesn't understand why I can't go to bed at a normal time. I sit on the couch for a bit until the house is quiet then I get busy cleaning up something. I think that I could get the entire house cleaned if I could do it at night! I hope you can make it through without too much more trouble. Oh, the joys of pregnancy...

 
scrappyhappymama

Thinking of you! Sounds like your girls are such sweet helpers. Was Frederic able to get the light situation resolved for you? Wish I was close enough to help.

 
DessertDiva

Ugh, I'm sorry about your light situation - did you guys get it dealt with? I'd talk to the neighbors for sure. They probably don't realize how bright it is or that it's shining right in your window.

 
sallyanne

It is SO ENCOURAGING to know that you are getting so much help! Keep us all posted! {{HUGS}}

 
strawberry_patch

UH... People are SO crazy sometimes! I don't know why anyone would put something like that one there house! rou could always put a giant mirror over your window at night, that might put an end to it :D

 
heatherj81

The weight loss in my case ended up at 40 pounds approx. I can't say that I needed those pounds, but pregnancy obviously isn't the time to lose them! I hope you feel better soon.

 
aikenape

Hey Heather! It's good to find you on here. I hope you start feeling better soon. Congrats on #3!

 
brianne

Wow. I really hope you get some relief soon! I'll be praying for you, and also for your family, and the little one! :)

 
ccmom

I'm really glad that we all got to meet you and your family before your sickness really set in. I've been praying for you and if there is anything I can do for you, please let me know. Maddie would love to have Noelani over to play some time.

 
bzyabsma

I am not sure what I would be taking, I've looked into elementary education but I think I'm too old to start that. I have considered phlebotomy, which is a one-semester degree program, but I don't know if I could actually DO that (draw blood).

 
bzyabsma

I think it's too late for me to get everything lined up for the spring semester - I don't have the money to pay for it right now and it starts in January. I'm going to check about auctioning off our house and some other things so I can get something else and get some bills paid.

 
bzyabsma

Something else as in a different house.

 
heatherj81

You mentioning nursing her baby dolls reminded me of Elisa when we talked about the baby, and how the baby will nurse too. She started bringing me her dolls and having me "nurse" them, then would hit them, grab on, and say "It's mine!" That lasted a week or two then she started putting the baby on one side and she took the other. But I still think it will be really hard for her to share also. Do you co-sleep?

 
littlelamb

Congratulations on the new baby!!!! I hope you get off easier on the sickness with this pregnancy. :)

 
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Passengers fascine your seatbelts and put your seats and tray tables in their locked and upright positions. We are making our final approach into ThrowUpLand. 12-23-08 11:25pm EST

I am still a little overwhelmed with the idea of 3 children. Not that 3 children seems overwhelming. Just that I’m overwhelmed that God has given me 3 children. I thought one was great. Two are even better. But 3! What can be cooler than that?! Well maybe 4 but we’ll just get through 3 for right now!!

So many things are going through my mind these days. August seems so far away and I don’t want to wait. But then when I think about all the things that we have to do, it seems like October might be better for us!

I don’t usually post things like this but I’m pregnant and EXTREMEMLY emotional these days and so this is a getting to know Heather kind of post!

Some of you may know that with both of my previous pregnancies I suffered from a condition called Hyperemesis Gravidarum. For us not so doctor minded people that means I threw up ALOT!

With Noelani I actually started getting sick before I even knew I was pregnant with her. At 6 weeks, it was getting pretty bad and when Frederic discovered that I was not only throwing up 5 or 6 times a day but also hadn’t gone to the bathroom in over a day he took me to the ER and in the hospital I went. I remember Frederic telling them that I couldn’t keep anything down so they gave me a cup of ice and told me to eat that. Frederic said she will throw that up too. They looked at him like he was crazy. I put one in, sucked for a minute and out it came with some water behind it. What was hard for me was that several nurses mocked me and said “You have a long road ahead of you. If you think this is bad, wait till you go into labor. You will be begging for an epidural at 1 cm if you can’t handle this now.” That hurt me so badly. This was real and it was serious (many years ago this used to kill many pregnant women) and it was hard. Harder than anything I ever did. With Noelani it lasted around 14 weeks and just like that it ended. I started getting symptoms again about a week before she was born and I actually threw up while I was in labor with her. It almost felt like I was allergic to being pregnant and my body was freaking out because it didn’t know what to do with this baby inside of it. And I gotta say that after a 19 hour labor and no drugs of any kind, labor was SO much easier than the 3 ½ months of CONSTANT vomiting and not being able to keep anything down. It was horrible and labor wasn’t easy but it didn’t last months, only 19 hours which isn’t even an entire day.

So I really thought that this wouldn’t happen to me again. Somehow I would slip through the cracks of hyperemesis and not get sick. Well in 2007, it was that same sick feeling that made Frederic go and get a pregnancy test because it had to be pregnancy since I was feeling that sick feeling again. Sure enough it was Maleia! I tried SO many things that everyone told me to do. I ate baked potatoes everyday (B vitamin in them!), I took B vitamins (some say it’s a B deficiency), I sucked on ginger (sometimes this would make me throw up!), I ate crackers before I would move, I ate crackers as I moved, I ate peppermint candies before every meal to calm my stomach and the list goes on. NOTHING worked again! Again, I was hurt by several making comments like Frederic and I shouldn’t have more children or if Frederic loved me why would he get me pregnant (like I wasn’t there when it happened!!!) or why don’t you take better care of your body and take X, Y & Z and then you will be fine or that I was weak and wasn’t tough enough to deal with pregnancy like women were back in previous generations (I find this one very funny cause the generation she was talking about was the one when women used to get knocked out for labor and delivery and they would magically wake up and the baby would be out just like that). I’m serious. Every single one of those things was said to me or my husband.

With Maleia, I didn’t get sick until I was around 8 weeks but it was so much worse. I couldn’t stand the smell of so many things. There was a time when I couldn’t stand the smell of Frederic. You may laugh but it wasn’t funny. Anytime he came by me I would throw up. We found out it was an energy bar he was eating and the smell would linger on his breath. Solution…stop eating those nasty bars! We had to switch cat food because the smell made me sick. I couldn’t be by garbage, couldn’t change diapers, couldn’t wash dishes or open up the dishwasher cause of the smell of old food, couldn’t look in the fridge cause if I saw or smelled anything that would make me sick I would throw up. I had to stop feeding Noelani watermelon and a hummus dip that she loved because I couldn’t stand it and I could smell it on her for hours after she ate it. There were times that I would hug her and start to throw up. It got so bad that I had to lie in bed and if I moved my head I would get so dizzy I would start to throw up and couldn’t stop. This lasted this way from 8 weeks till 28 weeks. I got pregnant with her in July and I was sick until the end of January.

Needless to say this is really hard on a family. My husband is amazing and for the life of me I can’t figure out why he wants more children. Well, I know why he loves and wants more children but I don’t know why he wants to have them with me! With Maleia’s pregnancy, Noelani and I ended up staying at my parent’s house for about 2 months. That was hard on us all because Frederic was concerned and missing us and couldn’t really do much for us. Noelani missed Frederic horribly bad and her behavior was suffering because I couldn’t discipline her and Frederic wasn’t around to do it. My parents were so worn out from waiting on us hand and foot. There were times I was so weak from not being able to keep anything in me that my mother would have to lift me out of the tub and dress me like a baby. She would shave my legs and brush my teeth and do my hair and give me foot massages to try to help relieve it. She got an idea to make my baths into ginger tea baths and have me eat in the tub so that it might help me keep things down. Sometimes it would work and others times it didn’t. If it didn’t, clean up was easy because I was already in the tub!! My dad was constantly on call for every restaurant for anything that even sounded good to me to eat. There were times he would go get something and by the time he brought it home the thought of that food made me sick so he’d have to go out again for something else. It gets hard cause once you throw something up you don’t want it again so your options keep getting smaller and smaller. It’s also very expensive.

One Sunday afternoon, my parents and Noelani came home from church. My mom starting to pack up our stuff and said we were going home tomorrow and she was coming with us and I was just going to have to make the trip. I started to cry because I thought she was just sick of us and she was crying to. She said at church a lady asked Noelani if her mommy was still sick and she said “Yes she is and I’m sad because I don’t have a daddy anymore.” So my mom said we have to get her back to Tampa fast and I’m just going to have to come and live with you and that’s what we did. Frederic and one of my sweetest friends EVER that has dealt with this same thing 4 times got the house all ready for me to come home. Erin knew that my husband was home for 2 months alone and she also knows that I need a clean house so she gathered up some friends to clean up the house and got me a nice gift basket of movies and candles and magazines and prepared a nice welcome home for me. My mom stayed with us for another month and then had to go home. I was doing ok at that point. Only getting sick maybe every other day or so. Finally I thought I was over it and started to eat some more satisfying meals. Well I was wrong and one night I started to get sick in our hallway bathroom and it was so violent and loud that it woke Frederic up across our house and he came out of our room upset because he thought I was moving furniture across the tile floor. He was shocked when he found out that sound was me throwing up. I actually bruised my esophagus so badly it burned for days after that. Frederic talked to the midwives about that one specific incident and they said they were giving me a few more days and then they would put in a feeding tube because I still wasn’t gaining weight and I was only 3 months away from Maleia being born. That was the last time I threw up with her.

So I give all this background to say that it’s starting with this pregnancy now too. It’s coming on fast and I’m very close to being very sick and I just can’t stand the thought of it right now. These last few days have shown me some pregnancy fury and I’m just shocked at how quickly I can remember just how bad this all really is. I have so much work that I do for my family and the church and I just don’t want to stop all of that right now. I’m saddened to say that a couple people have said hurtful things like “Again…why are they doing that again?” Most people are supportive and congratulate us on our new little blessing but it amazed me how there are people who don’t see the beauty in this situation. There are people who would rather focus on the trials rather than the miracle of life. I have seen a few of my friends go through this and though I don’t wish this on them I really am happy that they are having another child.

Right now Noelani and I are really enjoying homeschooling and I just don’t know if I can do it while I’m sick and can’t move. I have already had her helping me with things while I lay and rest and try to not be sick and I just feel like I’m putting too much on her right now. She’s only 5 and I don’t want to put so much on her.

And Maleia. I just cry every time I think about her and me being so sick (remember I said I was emotional!!). I remember with Maleia’s pregnancy there were days that I would only see Noelani for a few minutes as she was waking up or going to bed because I couldn’t do anything but lay there. I just don’t feel like I’m ready to have to do that with Maleia. She is so attached to me right now and at night she has started to want me to rock her till she falls asleep. I am still nursing her and will as long as I make milk and she wants to but I’m talking about her just wanting to rock with me. This is special for me because she has never liked to cuddle and I never pushed that on her and now she wants to rock and cuddle and I’m starting to not be able to do that because I can’t stand the motion or sitting up. I just feel like she needs me and I can’t be there the way she needs to me be.

And my husband. This is another hard one. He needs a lot of support and encouragement and help from his helpmeet and right now it’s kinda the flip side of that. He works so hard and he is struggling with helping me around the house. He is still doing more than most husbands do for their wives but I don’t know how long he can last at this. His job has him working about 60+ hours a week plus he is preaching 2 sermons a week and teaching the adult Bible class on Sunday and Wednesday and he is involved in 3 Bible studies during the week (some at night and some on his lunch hour. I say lunch hour because he only gets 1 lunch hour a week). These studies are so important right now because one of the men he is studying with is getting very close to obeying the gospel and the other is with a woman that is fighting cancer and is also asking questions and making statements that make him think she is also very close to that as well. The other is a prayer meeting that the congregation participates in which is uplifting to see so many that take extra time to pray for others. Since his salary at his job was just cut 12.5% (got to get that 0.5% in there!!! It makes a difference!) and we don’t have health insurance right now; he has decided to go back to graduate school for his MBA starting in January. He will be eligible for student loan money in January and April which will total the amount of the birth center’s prenatal care and labor and delivery costs. He will be finished with his MBA in August just days before the baby is to arrive. He is also conducting 4 meetings this year and so that will be something else that we will have to consider in regards to him leaving us with me being sick. Our family is very excited about these meetings and so we want to be able to travel with him if possible and if we can’t, we want to be able to support him as he travels. They are all great opportunities that we are excited and honored to be involved in.

We would really love for him to be “just” preaching and not working outside of that but right now our congregation just can’t support us fully and so his additional job is our only option. We are looking into the option of outside support and how we want to go about getting it so that we can slow down a little bit.

I am very scared and unsure of what our future holds for us. I feel like I’m doing this for the first time again. I haven’t ever done this when my husband was preaching and traveling with gospel meetings and finishing up a graduate program. At the beginning and the end of the sicknesses, there were several times that I would go to worship services and end up laying in the pew in the nursery to try to not throw up. I don’t know that the preacher’s wife can do that with her 2 children (one of which isn’t so quiet in church) running around the nursery while her husband is preaching away! I don’t know how my children can go to church without me for several months while they don’t have their mother or their father at services, especially when Maleia is in need CONSTANT instruction about how to behave in worship services. And if I don’t send them to church, how am I going to manage to watch them when they are healthy and I’m sick in bed. They need to go to church. I need some rest while they are gone. With the other 2 pregnancies, I always had Saturdays when Frederic would take Noelani and do all the errands, etc. while I would rest all day and not feel guilty about just laying around. Since he’s preaching and will be in school in a couple weeks, Saturdays aren’t really like that anymore.

So what to do, what to do? These Bible studies with the lost, preaching for our new church family, homeschooling, rocking my “not so much a baby anymore” baby to sleep and gospel meetings are all things our family is more than happy to participate in. The graduate school stuff is not that essential to us but we need that to be able to cover the cost of the new little one so that is a necessary thing for us right now. I pray that we will be able to continue to participate in all of these things. That is what is going through my mind and running through my heart these days. But I just keep thinking that God knows what is going on in our lives and he also gave us this baby for a reason. He also knows that this is how I produce children and that it is hard on everyone around me. Maybe God is just working on my faith. Maybe God knows that I have a tendency to do everything and to not accept help and he is working on that in me. Maybe God wants me to try to get some rest and this is the only way He knew I would have to lay down and rest! Maybe God is creating an opportunity for others to serve my family and for many people to enjoy the precious blessing of a new life. Maybe God just wants us to have another baby and I’m thinking too much about it!

So I say all of this to ask for prayers. I don’t want anyone to think I am complaining about this BECAUSE I AM NOT! I am thrilled to be pregnant again and hope that God blesses us with even more children in the future. This is a small price to pay for the joy we receive from our children. I really mean that. It is. We have always wanted a large family and this isn’t going to stop us. All of this has made me stronger and tougher and even though giving birth naturally 2 times wasn’t the easiest thing I’ve ever done, I would do that 10 times for each child over this whole throwing up for several months thing!

So please pray for me as I begin my decent into throwupland. It’s not a good place to go but I am traveling there now and will be deep in the heart of it shortly. But on the bright side, at the other end of my travels through throwupland, is my new sweet little baby that I will get to meet and hold and nurse and sing to in August. Another little addition to our family that makes us a little more complete. That is my trade for my travels to throwupland. So here I go! And remember…please pray for me and my husband and my 2 girls who need their mommy and my little baby who is growing a heart this week. How cool is that?!?!

OK thanks for reading this REALLY LONG post. It didn't seem so long when I was typing it but it sure is long when I posted it.

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granny

Concerned after reading your comment on Sally's blog, I came to you and want you to know I'm applauding your full hearted concerns for your family and doing your best on an empty stomach. Your kind of troubles while carrying a little one cry out for me to tell you I too am here for you.

 
bzyabsma

I am so sorry you are going through this! Your first priority right now is to take care of yourself so you can take care of your family, and I know Frederic is a great help to you. You need to just ask someone at the congregation there to give you a hand during services for the times you have to get up and go (andmaybe stay) out. Ginger tea is good for the sickness...I know there are a lot of other remedies out there, as well. I know how excited you are about homeschooling, but Noelani is super smart and you can go at a slower pace with her and she'll still excel, and plus, after the new little one is finally here with you, when you are better recovered from that and get a routine down, you can resume more regular studies with Noelani and she'll do great, I feel sure. You are definitely in my prayers - keep me in yours!! :D

 
bzyabsma

Also, I know there are people there who would willingly help you out at home, also, where I'm sure you will need some assistance especially if you are sick while Frederic is gone.

 
bbeasley

I don't have any advice, but I will be praying. God wouldn't bless you with another child if he didn't trust you to do your best with what He gives you.

 
heatherj81

As you know, I've been dealing with this for the third time. I lost 40 pounds, of which I have now gained a few back. I will give my opinion...I do not like medicine, I do not like pumping my body with things that could potentially harm me or the baby. BUT I weighed out the options, and in my case, a higher dose of Zofran has made a world of difference. I am taking 8 mg in the am, 8 mg in the afternoon...I had gotten up to 8 mg every 8 hours. When I miss a dose or am late, I still get HORRIBLY sick, and start throwing up again, so I am sure that the Zofran is part of it. From about 6 weeks to just recently I had a nanny/babysitter helping me from 2 p.m.-8 pm, because I could not even get off the bed most of the time. As to church, when my parents weren't traveling, they would take Emily and the twins with them, sometimes Elisa, especially when Renato wasn't working (like Wed nights). Noelani could probably manage with someone else easier than Maleia, but if you are home alone, you may need either someone to help you at home, or someone to take her too just because it's impossible to deal with a baby when we're that sick. Oh, and even with the Zofran I was pretty sick until about 14-15 weeks, but could manage basic things. My appetite has improved now, but there are many smells and sights I still can't stomach. Brazillian food almost always involves fried garlic, which I can't smell, as is the case with coffee. I went through a phase that both Renato and my house, no matter how clean they were, made me sick to my stomach. Thankfully, that phase is gone. I used to be a Coke-a-holic, during Elisa's pregnancy I used it to try to "feel better". This pregnancy I discovered that caffiene is a MAJOR issue for me and that it makes me MUCH sicker. I am still having trouble keeping water down, so I have had more than my needed amount of Sprite. Up to 14 weeks, I gagged on saliva and the bad taste in my mouth was constant. Thankfully, it~s going away. With Emily~s pregnancy, I had a break, and then it came back at the end. With Elisa's pregnancy I went from 4-6 weeks to 20 some weeks EXTREMELY bad, then it seemed to let up a little, but was still there, and quickly returned full force until delivery. At 32 weeks the amount of vomiting made me have issues with preterm labor, I was hospitalized for that once, and once because I was too malnourished. So Zofran for me, along with a number of other things, was a conscious decision to be in the best possible shape for my kids, and to allow this baby to be as well-nourished as possible. Oh, and also from 6-14 weeks I had to really avoid ALL carbohydrates, basically anything creamy, dairy, etc. As to the other people's comments, I have gotten plenty of them, from friends, people I don't know, doctors, nurses. During Elisa's pregnancy I felt that my doctor put it all on emotions. This time she hasn't, she is recognizing it as a real problem. I am currently anemic, and we are going to decide a course of

 
heatherj81

that, and my other minearls and such are doing better. She doesn't generally recommend routine vitamin use, but in my case, she does, due to the malnoutrition. I feel for you, as I have been wehre you are, even though I'm doing better now. I truly hope you can feel better soon also.

 
mtnestr

Oh, Heather. To just have nausea and vomiting for one day is unbearable to me and makes it so difficult just to get through it myself. Yet the thought of not being able to meet the needs of of family for such an extended time - especially for a wife and mom who is as conscientious as you are - must be overwhelming. But remember Matthew 6:34 - God loves you and your family. He knows what you need and will provide it. If you just take one day at a time, it will make the journey more manageable. I love you and am praying for you.

 
begooddontspit

praying for you. it IS all worth it!

 
desi

I will definitely pray for you and your beautiful family. I can't wait to meet the new little baby one day. I admire your willing attitude about all of this. It must be hard, but the outcome will be so worth it :)

 
green_gourmet

24 hours and they were right. It has been 24 hours now and I am able to tell a difference! I am so thankful. I still feel pretty rotten, but I think I will be back to my old self pretty quickly and able to help any friends who might need it(hint, hint):)

 
kristindoula

Oh, Heather! I am so sorry. I cannot imagine what you're going through. In my pregnancies (particularly the first two...the last two were not nearly as bad, mostly just a 24 hour yucky feeling and couldn't stand the thought of food), the 24 hour nausea was enough to just about send me over the edge. I didn't do a lot of throwing up ~ once a week for 6 weeks with Cadence; 1 time with Micah...and IIRC, I didn't throw up at all with the last two, except for when I had a stomach bug of some kind that went through the whole family in my last pregnancy. And as "bad" as that nausea was for me, I have always said I would do my natural labors/births over and over again before I want to do the first trimester sickness again...and mine was NOTHING compared to yours. I am SO SO sorry!!! I really wish I was closeby; I would help you out in a heartbeat!!! You are right, though...they are worth all of it! I will be praying that this will let up for you so you can more easily function. My heart goes out to you.

Some suggestions: (and I know it may not be as simple as any of these, but these are things that could possibly at least help, so I thought I'd mention them since you didn't say you'd tried them...)

*Aromatherapy? I know smells can be really, really difficult during this, as you mentioned. But I wonder if some of the aromatherapy scents would be tolerable. Peppermint is a good one. It usually helps with nausea in my clients in labor. Aromatherapy/essential oils have to be used with caution during pregnancy ~ some of them are contraindicated ~ but if you could find someone local to work with you on what to try, or if you could get your hands on one of the good books on their use in pregnancy and birth, it might help.

Another thing I wanted to mention is don't be afraid to cry. It is good for you in multiple ways, so let it out! Anecdotally, I will tell you that in each of my pregnancies when I felt so nauseated and could not stand to even think about food...Ken would tell me, "Just tell me what you think you can eat; I'll make anything for you, or I'll go get it..." and when I would think of SOMETHING that I THOUGHT I might be able to force in my mouth...he'd make or go get it, bring it to me, and I'd take a bite and just BURST INTO TEARS. I would then have a really good cry...and for whatever reason, I was then able to eat a little bit. Not much, and I didn't really enjoy it at all...but it was easier to eat after that release. You know how they say toxins are released in tears? That could have been it. Or something to do with the hormones and emotion I let out or something. I don't know. I know your situation is much more severe...but I just wanted to tell you that if you feel like you need to cry...CRY.

 
kristindoula

OK, somehow I cut out a big chunk of my response, with more suggestions (that's what happens when I multi-task)...

*I think I might have mentioned Tummy Tuneup to you. You can look at beeyoutiful.com to see what they say about it. Here is the blurb they have about this use:

"Pregnant moms find major relief from morning sickness when they take Tummy Tuneup. Especially during the first trimester, a mother’s body is trying to detoxify so it can devote all its energy to growing a healthy baby. This is why morning sickness tends to be the most intense during the early months of pregnancy. Much, if not most, of the detoxification works through the intestines, which process and get rid of toxins more efficiently if there are plenty of good bacteria around for the job."

I have not tried it at all yet, but I know some people who recently used it for a vomiting illness that was going around, and they said it worked WONDERS. I just ordered some the other day to have on hand (and to take along with a cleanse I'm doing next month) and my order just arrived about 5 minutes ago. I'd be happy to send you some if you want to try it out.

*Have you ever tried acupuncture? I have heard of really good results with this!

 
fourkings

wow! There really isn't anything that I could add.... You have some WONDERFUL ladies writing you some excellent advice!!! Go and take it!! Don't worry. I like Sallyanne's list and everyone elses is so helpful! Take care of yourself and don't worry about the rest! It and they will all still be there!!! Praying for you!!! :o)

 
DessertDiva

I can't even imagine what you're going through. I threw up once because I took my prenatal vitamin on too empty of a stomach and that was horrible. I had it good! I hope that this time it's not as bad and that it doesn't last as long. I will pray for you and your family. What a joy that baby will be when he or she arrives! :)

 
bama_amy

i don't really know you, but i think you know/knew my husband from FC. i stumbled on your blog and just want you to know that i'm praying for you guys during this hard time. you seem to have such a wonderful attitude of knowing the good that's going to come from this in having another sweet little baby.

 
beckylboyer

I am so sorry! I think of all the things you said I'm most sorry that you don't feel people are supportive of you being prenancy and that they say things that hurt you. I am very sorry about that. I'm sure some people just say things out of worry but I know its hurtful. We will certianly pray for you guys. I can't say that I've gone through all of the stuff you are going through at the same time like you are right now. But I do know that although most of those things you need to be doing there are some things that can slide. Try to allow yourself to not have a perfect house right now or perfect meals. Those things you can get by on. You need to take care of yourself and Frederic has so much on his plate. You are both blest to have each other. You are a great team and you'll make it through the sickness. I really hope this time is easier on you than the other times. I hope there are people there that will support you in all this. I wish there was something I could do. But as a preacher's wife - of course you can go to church and lay in the nursery. I know you want your children at church but don't push yourself too hard. Good luck with everything. You may never know all the reasons God has chosen to bless you at this time and maybe the reasons don't matter. When you bring that baby home I doubt you'll care anymore. :) Prayers!

 
heatheronthehill

hugs You've had some really good words from others. Just wanted to say that you do SO MUCH for others, please don't be ashamed to accept their help now that you need it. I so wish that I could be there to come help you out, daily if need be. I'm afraid the commute is a bit much though. I KNOW that there are hundreds of christian women and girls in the Tampa area though, and I am certain that there has to be several of them who would love to come help you in whatever you need.

I'll be praying for you as you undergo this difficult time. Just try to relax and take care of yourself and take care of other things as you are able. It will all be ok.

 
trishie

Oh, I hate to hear that you are struggling so much with sickness. What a blessing to be carrying another precious baby. You and your family will be in my prayers, I pray this time your sickness doesn't last very long.

 
bootymusicmama

Well, I'm your friend in throwupland. Our little ones will be so worth it! :) Hugs as you try to get through each day.

 
kristindoula

I wonder if there would be some girls at F.C. right now who would be willing and able to come and be a "mother's helper" some afternoons or something so you can get some more rest.

 
aggiemeg

a couple of other people have mentioned this, but I guess it doesn't hurt to say it again:) Life is cyclical. We go through good times and bad times. You are obviously a very giving person during the good times...verging on Super Mom if there is such a thing. But you're leaving that stage of the cycle for now. Some others are entering it. This is the time to let others do for you. Give them a chance to help you like you have helped them. It's just part of the cycle. Before you know it you will be back into the "giving of yourself" area of the circle again. Until then, do what you can and let someone else do the rest. NO ONE should judge you for that. In fact, it's their turn to rejoice at the opportunity to help someone else. I have a feeling, though, that you are your own worst critic. ;) Please don't be afraid to accept offers of help. It makes that person feel good and enables them to fulfill their responsibility as a Christian. I will pray for you and that precious baby!

 
ldp

Hey! I don't know if you remember me, I know we've met before; I'm Jennifer Siedenstrang. I came across your blog from another person. Congratulations on being pregnant again! I just wanted to let you know that i would be happy to come over and help you any time! I'm at FC but i would be willing to work out a schedule to come over after my classes for as long as you need help. If you want to get in touch with me just ask anyone from Temple Terrace. I don't want to put my info on Pleonast. Please let me know if i could do anything to help!! I hope and pray that this pregnancy goes better for you and that you have a healthy newborn in Aug! Please don't hesitate to ask me for any help!!!

 
beckye2

I will pray for you and your family. Prgenancy can take a lot out of you. I have friends who can endure hours of extrme labor and have unassisted brith end up hospitalized from dehydration the half of their pregnancies. I would ask around and see if there are homeschoolers who could help you or someone from fC could help you

 
scbrewer

I gotta tell ya. The only thing I'm thinking is how much I wish that I lived closer. I'd help you with whatever you needed during the day and while Frederic was gone. Bless your heart, I can't even imagine and will not even pretend to sympathize with you.

Seriously though, people need to realize how they come off when they delve into your personal life when it comes to fertility of any kind. You are having a baby, there isn't anyting you could or SHOULD do about it a baby is a blessing from God, and yes it is hard but you know that the end result is worth it. Absolutely worth it.

 
green_gourmet

It's been a busy few days... How are things at your house? Where are you on the number scale?

 
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It's Music to My Ears 12-17-08 01:46am EST

Ok so by now everyone knows that we are having another little baby. We are very excited!! Since I’m a planning kinda gal, pregnancy brings out the worst in my need to plan EVERYTHING!!! These pregnancies hormones aren’t wasting anytime and I’m in desperate need to get a plan! So this last week there has been much talk about this next year and how we are going to keep up with everything. Still haven’t figured that out yet but we shall see as it all unfolds.

Noelani started taking violin lessons back in August and tonight was her very 1st recital. Her group played 3 songs that they have been working so hard on. Being the perfectionist that she is, the past few weeks she has been working so hard to make sure she’s doing everything just right. Her bow hold, her wrist positioning, her finger positioning…it all has to be perfect for her to be happy!! She is very diligent with it and she has been teaching Maleia how to play. Sometimes Maleia will bring the violin to Noelani and say “here” and Noelani will play for her and Maleia will sing the scales with Noelani (she just says A…A….A….A….B…B…B…B!) and it’s so sweet to hear Noelani clap and say “Good job Maleia! That was great!” Maleia and I sit in on her lessons and Maleia is really showing interest in the violin as well. So her teacher said we could start her in lessons when she turns 2. I can’t even imagine it. She does know how to hold it and pluck pluck pluck on those strings!!!

Anyway…so tonight was her recital and I was really proud of her. She did a great job and for the first time in her life got to experience what it feels like to work really hard on something and then have others see that and appreciate that effort. When she first started playing, I told Frederic I wasn’t going to push her at all. No 4 hour a day practices, etc. She would play it when she wanted to and I would listen in her lessons so that I could help her when she asked for it. Well she is diligent with her practicing and she tries so hard to do her best. Funny thing is that I’m learning to play it with her and let me just say it’s not easy!!!!

So here are some pictures of our little violin girl!

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Peeking in the auditorium to see all the preparation

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Getting ready backstage

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Waiting in the audience for her turn to go on stage

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Finally up there and ready to play

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Her first song…the flower song

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The flower song

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Next song…the monkey song

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Ready for the final song…Twinkle Twinkle Little Star

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Playing Twinkle Twinkle

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Happy with her performance

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Smiling at daddy as he is cheering for her

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All that violin music pooped out Maleia!

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Daddy & Noelani

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Maleia was SO tired!

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A kiss for a job well done!

So there you have it…my little violin girl! She’s growing up so fast. The girls and I got haircuts today in honor of the recital tonight and while the girl was shampooing her hair I asked her if the water was too hot for her and she said “No mom it’s good. I’m really trying to relax and enjoy this head massage.” She’s just growing up way too fast!

Oh and the cherry pitter did come yesterday! I bought 4 bags of cherries last night and we ate one when I got home and we ate one for breakfast this morning. Since I used to cut eat cherry in half and get out the pits for Maleia this tool is amazing. You just pop that cherry in there and squeeze and out pops the pit. Plus it makes Maleia laugh like crazy! It might just be my favorite thing in my kitchen. Yep I think it is!!!

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didow

She looks beautiful with her violin. I teach violin lessons. I don't start them as young as 2 though. All my kids play piano and most play a stringed instrument of some sort. I've got one (12 yrs old) that plays piano, violin, viola, cello and trumpet. He's definitely the musician of the family.

 
beckylboyer

I felt bad about it but Ryan thought it was silly. I love getting cards - especially ones with pictures and notes about what they've been up to. I don't care that they sent the same form letter to everyone. We of course sent one to every member at church so that was about 50 cards right there. What I feel bad about though is that a few days after they get them I get a card in the mail. I don't want people to feel they have to send us a card because we sent one you know? I meant to ask you yesterday did you play the violin? I just always wonder how people choose things for their kids to be in. I always wonder if my kids have some secret ability or passion that I will never discover because I enroll them in boring sports stuff. :)

 
anna_maria

Hi you don't know me but we both know Ashley Fields. I saw where you wrote that your husband preaches and you home school. So do we. My husband preaches in here in WV. I have a blog for preachers wives too on here. wvpreacherswife. Anyway just thought I'd say hi--always nice to meet a fellow home schooler!

 
ericandkat

I am so pleasantly surprised (SHOCKED) about your upcomming arrival. CONGRATULATIONS!!! I have really got to check out pleo more often, I keep missing these important details until way past when their posted! So you and Posey will have little ones close in age! Maybe I'll catch up with you on #4. So what do you think, boy or girl? I know you are so proud of Noelani, she looked like a princess up on stage! Definately the best dressed there, what happened to the poor little girl with the arm cast?!

 
mullenpatch

Hey H! We are well. My older blog has how it's been going. We were happy to hear that y'all got a preaching opportunity. F is such a great speaker. 3 HUH? Well, you know us 4 is an amazing number. May the Lord continue to bless you (maybe another girl) you seem to do those well :-) Take care.

 
sjb

You are absolutely right! It does depend a lot on the temperament of the baby and the other kids. My middle son was 2 and 4 months when Gare was born, and although he was a little jealous of my time and attention, he did alright. Everyone adjusts, I guess. Just prepare yourself for that, and you will be fine. I wasn't prepared for it, so I think it hit me harder. I'm excited for you guys!!!

 
ccmom

Beautiful pictures of what looks like a wonderful evening! It's so great when they like to practice and how fun that she wants to teach Maleia.

 
dehutmom

What a lovely family moment. :) Your girls look like girls. Bravo for that too. Enjoy your holidays! :)

 
ccmom

Their belts go white, yellow, orange, green, purple, blue, red, recommended black, and finally black. Joel and Zach have been doing Tai Kwon Do for over 4 years. Maddie had been doing it for 2.

 
ccmom

Ha ha, no. We'd love to hear whatever he has planned to preach. I've heard many good things about his preaching and am excited to hear him in person. I'm also excited to meet you all!

 
ccmom

We worship at Seffner.

Fortunately, one of the first things they learn in karate is to never use their skills on their brothers and sisters. :) But sometimes instinct kicks in. I once, in fun, came up behind Zach and grabbed him around the shoulders and he immediately whipped his head back and hit my nose. That really hurt but it was my fault because that is what he learn in self defense.

 
dressednyella

Congratulations on your pregnancy!! Wonderful news!!

 
bromita

still feeling ok?

 
amy_szabo

these pictures are SO cute!

 
jkmram

what a beautiful little girl you have, she looks like a little princess in that dress. :o)

(actually two beautiful little girls!)

 
bromita

Well I have good days and REALLY bad days. I am no longer loosing weight which is good for the first time in my life. But I feel yucky most days and I'm 4 months now. We will find out the sex Jan 7th so I'm looking forward to that!

 
green_gourmet

I'm so sorry! Is there ANYTHING I can do for you guys(other than pray!)?

 
green_gourmet

On a related note: You want to know something crazy? I look at Aaron now and think I could do it AGAIN:) They are so worth it, but it is SOOO bad in that first few months!

 
sweetpeas

Congrats on the new little one coming! Sorry you are ill again. Praying it doesn't last the whole time!

 
cdillman23

very cute!!!

 
bromita

I know everybody is different, but I have a confession and something that makes me feel so much better. I drink a caffeine free coke and eat some saltines together, I don't know why but that makes it all better! There's just something about a coke, ginger ale doesn't cut the mustard for me!

 
kristindoula

Oh no! I'm sorry you're feeling so bad! I just recently became familiar with a product called Tummy Tuneup, which a lot of women have success with in fighting the "morning" (ALL DAY) sickness. If you go to beeyoutiful.com, you can look it up and read what they have to say about that use. I hope you feel better soon!!! Don't worry...I completely understand. I'm anxious to hear your thoughts, but whenever you get to it is fine. Enjoy the holidays!

 
cdillman23

Again, those are precious pictures. Oh, maybe Melia will be a child prodigy on the violin. As for her age, my baby is 6 years old! She's not really a baby anymore but you know, always my baby!! :)

 
ginasitter

We have been working on it for about a month and will start in Jan. Hope you and your family have a happy holiday!

 
chessman

For us, #1 was almost no adjustment, but #2 was really tough. Still untested on #3. Like James, she seems to have 2 modes -- nursing or fussing, but having 2 "helpers" may be easier. Also, Faithlyn was only 21 months when James came along, but he's almost 3. Check in during March after all the additional help's been gone for a month, and we can give you a better idea ;-)

 
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Cherries are in season and God just knew we needed it 12-09-08 01:55am EST

Well it is official. I am a homeschool mom. For the past few years there has been talk of it but today it is official! Yes I know it’s December so how could this be our first day of school? Well since we are a strange family, we usually don’t do things the way everyone else does. School is no different! Back in August, we decided that with the Father Daughter Retreat and Noelani’s birthday and Frederic starting to preach at Seminole and our gospel meeting and our anniversary it would be better for us to wait and start in November or December so that we could really focus on school. I guess you could say we are taking advantage of the flexibility homeschooling offers!

So that brings us to today. Our plan is to have school from December through September and then take our “summer” break and start back in December. (It is FL so October and November feel like summer!)

So today Noelani was SOOOO excited she could hardly stand it. We waited till Maleia took her 4 hour nap and we started. We finished in about 45 minutes and Noelani was begging to do more work. I told her there would be more tomorrow and she starting jumping up and down! I really was surprised at how quickly everything went. We did math, social studies (learning all about America with our focus being on how we are pilgrims on this earth), handwriting, reading and Bible/Character. Tomorrow will be the same except we will do science (an in-depth study of creation. Well as in-depth as kindergarten can be!!) instead of social studies.

Here are some pictures of the little school girl on her first day

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To change the subject, last year our family decided to get each other some presents for Thanksgiving. The idea is to tell each other why we are thankful for each specific person and then give them a present. We enjoyed it so much we decided to do it again this year. So the kids were pretty easy to get something for but I was really struggling with what to get Frederic. Since we have been a couple for the past 9 years I have given him all the typical presents: a watch, cologne, ties, shirts, shirts & ties, wallet (which he never carried), a money clip (never carried that either!), a laptop bag, etc. I just really didn’t know what to get him. The thing that really stunk about me not knowing what to get him was that I actually had money to spend on this gift. Like most couples, there have been birthdays and anniversaries that we just didn’t have any money to spend on anything so we just didn’t give gifts. I had saved up some money and I was excited to have cash in hand. Sadly I couldn’t think of anything special to buy him to show him that I was thankful for him. I thought about it a lot and couldn’t come up with anything. So I got him nothing. I know that sounds horrible doesn’t it. I just figured I would wait until I found something I really wanted to get him.

So you might be wondering what he got me. Well I love cherries and so do our girls. I have always loved to share them with the girls but it’s hard because of the cherry pits. I have had my eye on a cherry pitter for years and of course a couple months ago when I tried to buy it it was discontinued. So Frederic tracked one down but it didn’t come in time for Thanksgiving. Noelani has been waiting for the mail everyday to see if we got our cherry pitter. Still hasn’t come. Bummer and cherries are at the grocery store right now too!

Well for me all hope wasn’t lost. I ended up coming up with a gift after all. God helped me out alittle bit and today I gave him his late Thanksgiving gift. I think he’s going to like it! Do you want to see what I got him???????

Photobucket There are a few drawbacks for him though. He will have to share with Noelani and Maleia and me! Oh and he’ll have to wait till August but I’m sure he’ll be ok with that. And he has to do the cat boxes for the next 9 months or so. And he will have to help with some remodeling for the nursery and all. And I’m sure there will be a couple middle of the night runs to the grocery store for me and he’ll have to rub my feet and back more. All that aside, I still think he’s really going to like his gift!!!

Only drawbacks for me is that I finally got myself into the gym last week and lost 2 lbs this week. So much for my weight loss goal! Oh well. Baby is much cooler than loosing 40 lbs. I just hope baby doesn't make mommy gain 40 more lbs!!!!!

So I wrapped up the little pregnancy test in pink and blue tissue paper and I gave it to him and the girls while they were reading some Bible stories. I video taped as they were opening it and, of course, Noelani asked if she could open it for him. Of course, he let her! As she was opening it, Frederic was helping Maleia with something and wasn’t really watching her actually open the present. When she got it opened she looked at the test and said “The cherry pitter finally came!!” and Frederic asked to see it and she showed him and he started to cry. She kinda looked funny at him like “Um dad it’s only a cherry pitter!” So he told her that wasn’t the cherry pitter but it showed us that mommy has a baby in her tummy. She started to scream and Maleia did too! Noelani said "I thought that thing looked kinda weird!" It was really very sweet!

So I still have my money for his present. I think I'm going to buy his new present an accessory like a new swing or a new car seat!!

So there you have it. That is my surreal day. I’m alittle overwhelmed today with God’s blessings. I guess shocked is a better word. We haven’t always gotten pregnant so easily and so this was a wonderful surprise blessing for us so much so that Noelani even said “...and we didn’t even pray for this baby. Wow…God just knew we needed it.” I knew I wanted and needed more sweet babies but I wasn’t sure when. So like Noelani said God just knew we needed it and apparently we needed it August 17th!

So go and tell Frederic congrats on his new Thankgsgiving present cause he's pretty excited about it!

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ccmom

Wow! I will be praying for you, that this pregnancy will be easier.

 
jojophoto

I am so happy for you!!!!!!

 
green_gourmet

GOOD! We should come up with some sort of scale- 1= feel great, 10= can't move a single body part without vomiting, etc. You could give me a number update every day, so I know whether or not you need anything!!!:)

 
serena

Praise God! Congrats on another blessing on the way!

 
ryanandnancy

Yeah! Congratulations! So you and Posey are pregnant at the same time! :) Glad that everything is going well for y'all. I hope that this pregnancy is much easier than the other two. I've been trying to convince Ryan for a third but now that Colton is getting older, almost a year old, it's getting harder to convince myself too. I don't we'll see. Mom and Dad haven't sold their house yet. I want to come and visit sometime after the new year and after Colton's b-day. I'll let you know when. Glad that homeschooling went well. Talk to you later! We're happy for y'all!

 
jkmram

congratulations!

you have such beautiful girls... homeschooling is so much fun when they love it so, huh?

 
charliesangel

Congratluations! I was wondering if you were going to have another one! Bet the girls are excited. Anxious to hear about your homeschooling!

 
southern_yankee_mom

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So happy for all of you!!!!

 
jaimer

congrats

 
missysnapp

WHOA!!! Congrats to you both! That's truly exciting. Kudos to you for keeping the secret. I was always terrible at that and usually spoiled the moment! :)

 
ministerswife1995

Congrats! How are you all doing?

 
leahsparks

You'd loooooooove the melting pot! it was my 1st time. (just be prepared - it was $50 each!)

 
ashfields

Oh my Goodness!!!! Of course I remember you!!! I will say it again...I can't believe who I run into on here!!! Your parents are the ones that were friends with the Belknaps, and that's how my parents got together!! I'm sure you remember that :) Oh, and I have the funniest memory of Adam. We were visiting somewhere for church services and the bread was being passed for the Lord's Supper. He accidentally broke off the hugest piece of bread, and the plate was passed before he could put it back, so he just kept nibbling on it. LOL...great to see you on here! Did you look at my previous posts? I have 4 kids!! I'm going to add you to my friend's list. :)

 
ashfields

That's a nice problem to have...too many friends!! :) See ya "around"!!

 
grandmadiane

Your world has changed so much this past few months!!! May your children rise up and call you blessed and you husband's quiver be full... best of everything with the homeschooling.. 20 years ago it just became legal in our state and we started k with our first little one:) This year is the last year for our last child:(

 
erica03

Rick normally leaves at 7am, if not sooner. He left at 6:30 this morning as well as last Friday. I must say, I HIGHLY commend you on not having a tv, but honestly, it's saving me around here! I'm so exhausted by 5pm that I have to plop them in front of it to give me a break. If I got a nap during the day then I would be better, but that never happens so I'm desperate. VERY desperate!

 
kristindoula

That's awesome, Heather! I assume you went to the birth center Juline works at? I hope they're able to do it at home this time; I remember Juline telling me that they can only do homebirths if they don't have too many due at once. So exciting...SO many pregnancy announcements lately...not helping my baby lust! LOL!

 
erica03

Yeah...okay, you win. I will definitely stop my complaining! I'm glad that you are married to someone that can handle all of that and no sleep and STILL put a smile on his face. Of course you have to possess the ability to handle that as well (which you can). I stress out and get grumpy, but I was raised by a single mom who was ALWAYS working so that might have something to do with how I feel now.

 
didow

Congratulations! That's great news.

 
didow

Oh, and congrats on the home schooling. It sounds like you got off to a good start.

 
erica03

Ah, well look at us...talking about how much we have to do and we sit here on pleo! hahaha From now until Christmas I will just have to forget that Rick lives here, because I won't be seeing him much. Going home on Saturday is what's getting me through this week. I still have so much to do that I haven't gotten too excited to leave. I just have to pace myself with housework, because I am still getting over being sick (I couldn't breathe from all of the mucus in my throat and a baby pushing up from the other end so it was a HORRIBLE week for me last week!).

 
erica03

Plus, I like to do cleaning when I know that I won't be interrupted (makes me SO crabby and unmotivated!) and usually I do NOTHING when my kids nap so that I can rest my body and gear up for the afternoon. I get stuff done when Rick walks in the door. For some reason I am more motivated when he's home then when he's not. Probably because he can take care of Karys (Titus is usually always in bed by the time he gets home) and I can just go go go until it's done. Rick tried to get me out of bed at 6am this morning and I am usually always up at that time, but Karys doesn't have school on Tuesdays so I just wanted to lay there (I don't sleep through the night...EVER) so I was tired. I was a little perplexed (and annoyed) as to why he was shooing me out of my warm bed when he was leaving at 6:30. When he left, there I was...sitting there drinking my coffeee....by myself. I could have been sleeping!!!

 
charliesangel

check out your supertarget. ours has an entire jelly belly section! it's a whole isle!

 
erica03

How many weeks pregnant are you?

 
mullenpatch

Congratulations! Sheila

 
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