Its mid 50s today here and it feels very pleasant after last night walking around in the 30s! Yuck! Of course I wouldn't want to be outside all day in it but we don't have to wear our coats at least!
I think I want it down with a little pulled back. I'm not 100% but I'll figure it out somewhere in the next 3 weeks. it's been freezing here I'd much rather have the 80's
If I could sell my house I would pack everything and run to AZ. I would LOVE to be in those temps. Our high today was 41 but feels a lot colder no sun today and windy. But we are loving these gas prices $1.39 a gal can you believe it feels like a retro moment someone pinch me no don't I don't want to wake up.
Well, I love the cold and snow, but right now we have none!! I thought of you the other day...we found some cute little, soft, high-heel baby shoes!!! They were SO Liz!! :o)
so my friend kim that i discussed previously was diagnosed just recently with stage 4 colon cancer. at 29. please continue to pray for her recover and her family. below is an article that was in the news paper yesterday here.
here is also a link to her blog if anyone wants to see more.
thanks for continued prayers!
Events raise funds for cancer patient
Community, family, friends rally to help her
by Jonathan J. Cooper - Nov. 15, 2008 12:00 AM
The Arizona Republic
Kim Miller thought she was healthy.
The 29-year-old mother of three and wife of Goodyear police Sgt. Deron Miller played softball regularly. She had lived an active and healthy lifestyle since childhood.
So Miller and her family were stunned to learn that a gnawing back pain didn't come from kidney stones.
Rather, it was caused by colon cancer that had spread to her liver and lungs. She needed immediate treatment.
"I never, ever thought it would be cancer," she said. "It didn't make sense. I'm healthy. I'm 29 years old. We're still playing softball."
Now, Miller's family and friends are rallying to raise money as she takes time off work to recover. She hasn't worked at John Laing Homes in Goodyear long enough to qualify for short-term disability.
Goodyear police officers take on firefighters tonight in the city's annual Guns N' Hoses flag-football team - with Deron Miller as quarterback - at Desert Edge High School in Goodyear. The law-enforcement agencies have agreed to donate some of the proceeds to Miller's family.
Another fundraiser is set for Nov. 22 at Sunset Bowl in Phoenix.
Even strangers are throwing in their support. Colleagues from around the country, most of whom have never met Kim Miller, have donated their sick leave to her.
She has received sympathy e-mails from around the world. Some are from religious groups of all stripes letting her know she's in their prayers. Despite her struggles, Miller insists on seeing the positives in her predicament.
"It's amazing how my situation has brought so many people back together," she said. "It has brought so much prayer. It's amazing."
Her cancer is classified as Stage 4, the most severe. It is invading critical organs throughout her abdomen. Doctors give her a gloomy outlook, but Miller is convinced she will beat the tumor. After all, she said, her mother confounded doctors when she recovered from Stage 4 lymphoma eight years ago.
"I don't know what I'm supposed to do besides fight like hell for my family and for myself," she said. "I honestly feel like I'm going to be OK. But I know it's going to be a struggle."
recently a good friend of mine here suddenly lost her father. it brings all sorts of feelings up within myself knowing that happened to me to along with my pseudo-father, my grandpa. i harbor all sorts of feelings i never really let out. in talking with her i shared how i have dealt with the two deaths in my life. i told her i can not relate to her, even though we have the same situation, my relationship with my father was completely different than hers, but i know what she is going through. the hurt, the anger, the pain, the feeling of being broken and not knowing how you are going to put yourself together. knowing your life would never be the same.
it made me feel good to be able to share this with someone since i never have felt i can. saying it again has sort of put a peace within me again.
here goes.
when someone close to you dies, you don't have to be ok. you don't have to be ok with them leaving. your life will now never get any easier with them gone however it won't get any harder either. your life will just be different and that is ok. you will be ok, just a different ok. :)
When I was counseling disturbed kids, I was told over and over that people don't want to hear that you "know what they're going through" or that you "know how it feels." I understood their point. People want to feel bad. However, there comes a time (it's different for everyone) when it is time to pick yourself up and dust yourself off and move on with your life. The only thing you can do in those situations is to express that you know they feel bad now, but that it will get better with time and, that you'll be there whenever they need you.
People hate to be left alone or abandoned. Most times, letting someone know that they are not alone is about the best you can do.
Its always so hard to help someone in times like this. Even when you have the same situation like you two do - its still different like you said. Because you are different, the relationships are different, etc. I've found really the only thing to do is tell them you are sorry and there for them. I try to be there and let them talk as much as possible about their loved one. We really wanted to keep talking about Luke after he died and it was nice to have friends who let us do that. You are a good friend. I'm sorry for the painful memories this brings us but glad you do have some peace now.
Great advice. There's a Nicholas Sparks book that touches on this point called The Choice. It was an easy heartwarming read. And sometimes it's ok to just be.
I lost my granddiddy when i was 11. I loved him dearly, but he lived in Georgia, I lived in Texas. We saw him at least once a year. My brother and I would spend a month every summer with them...I loved him. And I was sad when he left. But once again, I was 11 and we didn't live remotely near each other.
He is the only family member that I have lost. When my dad goes though, there is NOTHING anyone can say to console me. I know that he will be in a better place and that it was God's will...but I will feel like a part of me died too.
rationalities don't help in these cases, but I know I wouldn't want to be alone either.
you did will with your friend, and I am glad that you got some time to release as well.
thank you Liz - that's very sweet. Luke already knows lots about Uncle Luke but I haven't told Lily much yet. I agree with everything you said. There is nothing you can do to make it any easier. But being a friend and being there are so important. I will never forget the people that were there for me when Luke died. It really still warms my heart!
so today at work we are having a little halloween fun since they decided to cancel our christmas party! we were all supposed to dress up and then we had a little bit of food fun.....
4 people dressed up......
i was included....
that's not fun. but at least 3 of the people dressed up are my team! :)
here we are...
here are the cupcakes.....
and of course my post would not be complete without a cute picture of my nephew. i got a hold of him at the beautiful wedding i went to on saturday....
i ended up going to my high school reunion. it was fun and i got to see two people i was very excited to see. one was my outside hitter, kim gwaltney. she was telling me how she wasn't feeling well lately and was going in to the hospital for tests because she had never felt pain like that before even going through child birth twice with no drugs. i got the call today she was just diagnosed with colon cancer. at this point that is all i know. i don't know what stage she is in but they are taking in her in for chemo today if possible so i am not taking that to be a good sign. she is 29 and has a husband and 3 children. please keep kim and her family in your prayers for a complete recovery.
thanks
here is a pic of her at our reunion. she is on the right of me.
I am so sorry to hear that. My grandpa died of colon cancer so my mom is "high risk" for it and has to keep a close eye on that kind of thing. But my grandpa lived 16 years after he was diagnosed and they gave him 2 - 5 years.
